So here’s the truth…
I haven’t made a single wedding-related decision since I ordered the dress.
Anyone who knows me knows that I am terrible at decision-making. Sometimes I’m paralyzed by the question of what to eat for lunch. And God forbid that I make a decision and then, for whatever reason, have to make a different selection. That entree you wanted? We’re out of it. Sorry, no cranberry juice. Etc. And what is planning a wedding but constantly making decisions?
Thankfully the big stuff is out of the way…but now, we have all of these little decisions to make, and I know that I should probably get moving on some of them, but I just don’t want to. One of my aunts wants to buy me something wedding related for Christmas. She suggested toasting glasses, but she wants me to pick them out. Could there be something I’ve thought about less? I don’t think so. Several people have asked what I’m going to do with my hair. Uhm…I dunno?
Veil? I dunno. Flowers? I dunno. Cake? I dunno. You get the idea.
Lots of people, of course, ask me how the plans are coming. I smile and say “fine.” And then I feel a slight pang of panic deep down. Am I supposed to be doing something? What am I supposed to be doing?
I’m not going to pretend that I never considered the idea of my wedding until the moment I was engaged, but I’m certainly not one of those girls who had everything all figured out ahead of time.
I don’t really know what my point is here…I know I’m rambling. I guess I’ve always known that I didn’t really care about most of this minutiae. I’m just now realizing how much. And yet, the decisions will have to be made anyway…
Funny, I had everything all figured out and organized in my “wedding folder”, then when it actually came down to it I scrapped the whole thing and had the small wedding! Kinda what you are saying…in the end, all that stuff really isn’t what is important…
I sympathize re: wedding decisions. A suggestion (what I did): find a friend or family member who DOES enjoy making those kind of decisions and get her help. Or (I also did this) just go ahead and make decisions without spending too much time angsting over alternatives, as long as Rand doesn’t care either way.
As Jennifer pointed out above, it’s just one day and all those decisions won’t matter that much in the end — will you really care about any of that stuff ten years from now? But deep down you know you really WILL care (e.g. deeply regretting the fact that you chose purple and orange instead of purple and pink as wedding colours, if you have wedding colours, for instance), then I’d set aside a limited time slot (an hour? a day?) and force yourself to make a decision by the end of it.
I think it also helps if you prepare yourself for the fact that your wedding WON’T be perfect. Inevitably, something small (or possibly big) will likely go wrong. But in the end, you and Rand can look at each other at the end of the day and laugh about whatever it was, and nothing else will matter. Besides, perfect weddings are Boring. Having glitches and making mistakes — well, it just makes for a better story later on. 🙂
Typo in the above, sorry.
“But deep you know you really WILL care” should read “But deep down, *IF* you know you really will care…”